𝐖𝐇𝐀𝐓 𝐈𝐒 𝐄𝐌𝐎𝐓𝐈𝐎𝐍𝐀𝐋 𝐒𝐂𝐀𝐑?

Many people view emotional scars as persistent emotional pain and distress.

They are also seen as lasting psychological effects or trauma that influence one's thoughts, feelings, and behaviour.

It can also be considered as an unresolved issue or wounds from the past.

But essentially, emotional 😭 scars are like invisible wounds inside your heart and mind.

They happen when something really hurtful or sad 😞 happens to you. 

Even if you can't see them on the outside, they can stay with you, making you feel sad, angry, or scared for a long time.

It's like having a sore spot in your feelings that needs time and care to get better, just like when you have a cut or scrape on your skin.

Women who have been emotionally scarred in the past for different reasons always ask me this question.

Especially those who are just freshly coming out of an abusive relationship (either married or in courtship) and those who know that they are still being controlled by their childhood traumas.

Let me let you in on a secret...🤫 I have been there before, so you are not alone. 

I was emotionally 🖤 scarred so much that it almost ruined my newly found love with the man I call my husband today. 

Our first year in marriage was a bit of a rollercoaster.

🤯 I was very paranoid, and every little misunderstanding or words that came out of his mouth would take me back to my past with full speed! 🚀 

Did it cost us our joy during the first year of marriage? Hell yes! Did I also tell you that he was also emotionally scarred from his previous relationship too? 

Now you know what we dealt with in our first year of marriage 😞

So don't feel you are the only one dealing with this. We've all been scarred in one way or the other.

I know you have tried your best to deal with your emotions. You've read several books on how to manage or cope with emotional scars, but nothing is shifting at the moment. 

You have watched so many YouTube videos to help you, but here you are still wallowing in the pain these scars are projecting.

𝐇𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐢𝐬 𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐞𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐥 𝐬𝐜𝐚𝐫𝐬 𝐬𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐮𝐩 𝐢𝐧 𝐨𝐧𝐞'𝐬 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞:

💥 𝐅𝐞𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐃𝐨𝐰𝐧: Sometimes, you might feel sad or mad without knowing exactly why. It's like having a cloudy day in your heart.

💥 𝐓𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐛𝐥𝐞 𝐓𝐫𝐮𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠: You might find it hard to trust people or make new friends because you are worried about getting hurt again.

💥 𝐁𝐚𝐝 𝐦𝐞𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐬: Emotional scars can make you remember bad things from the past a lot, like rewinding a sad movie in your mind.

💥 𝐓𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐛𝐥𝐞 𝐬𝐥𝐞𝐞𝐩𝐢𝐧𝐠: Emotional scars can sometimes make it tough to sleep or give you bad dreams, like having a scary movie in your head when you are trying to rest.

𝐃𝐢𝐝 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐬𝐞𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐢𝐧 𝐚𝐭 𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐭 𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐬𝐞?

If you answered yes, I totally get it because we've all been there. So you are not alone. 

A lot of women who I coach come to me emotionally scarred, and they leave me free from it.

I am an empowerment coach. I have helped a lot of women who are going through emotional trauma heal from emotional scars, regain their power, rewrite their story so that they can have their dream life.

𝐋𝐞𝐭'𝐬 𝐠𝐨 𝐛𝐚𝐜𝐤 𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐪𝐮𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧:

What are some effective coping strategies for dealing with emotional scars?

𝐌𝐚𝐲𝐛𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐪𝐮𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐬𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝 𝐛𝐞 𝐚𝐬𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐬:

How can one overcome and let go of emotional scars rather than just managing or coping with them?

The problem is most women try to manage and cope with emotional scars instead of looking for ways to be free of them for life.

𝐇𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐰𝐚𝐲𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐛𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐩𝐥𝐞𝐭𝐞𝐥𝐲 𝐟𝐫𝐞𝐞 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐞𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐥 𝐬𝐜𝐚𝐫𝐬.

These are not just tips that have not been tried. I used them to overcome my traumas, and I still use them for my clients, and it works a great deal! 

✔ 𝐓𝐚𝐥𝐤 𝐀𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐈𝐭: Find someone you trust, and share your feelings with them. Sometimes, just talking about what's bothering you can make the sadness or anger go away.

✔ 𝐏𝐨𝐬𝐢𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐓𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡𝐭𝐬: Try to focus on good and happy things in your life. Think about what makes you smile or laugh, like your favorite games, friends, or pets. Happy thoughts can push away the sad ones.

✔ 𝐅𝐢𝐧𝐝 𝐚 𝐜𝐨𝐚𝐜𝐡: Finding a coach who specialises in helping people overcome emotional scars can be a great way to get the guidance and support you need. 

A coach is like a teacher who can show you the path to healing and freedom.

✔ 𝐑𝐞𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐞 𝐄𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬: Writing out your pains and hurt can indeed be a powerful tool for healing and freeing your mind.

When you put your feelings into words on paper, it's like letting them out of your heart. It can be a relief to express your pain and hurt, even if it's just to yourself.

❓ What are you going through right now as a result of past emotional scars? And which of the strategies are you going to practice regularly?

📞 If you are ever looking for someone to talk to about this topic, please feel free to book a free discovery call with me.

Take care! 

Coach Nancy 👸🏻